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I think the men who have been kept ignorant by the bride to be's expectations and boundaries are just asking to be abused. He is forced to go on a guessing game and mind game blow ups.

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I think that a husband needs to be informed in advance that brutish behavior will not be tolerated. I let my husband know that if would not treat me right when he is awake, then I would create hell for him when he went to sleep. My first husband did not believe me and he is paying the price to this day. My second husband believed me and we have a great marriage.

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I made myself totally exciting and so indispencible that he would rather crawl from Calgary to Edmonton and back before he would want to do anything to offend me.

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Men just need proper motivation and they will always want to be loving to their wife.

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Before I got married I told my husband that I was his equal and that I expected him to love me better than himself. I told him I would not tolerate physical or mental abuse. And that I would love him better than myself. I think that we have a very good relationship.

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My father told me numberous times while growing up. If you do not want a brutish man for a husband, never try to change him. Before you get married look at how much you will have to change to be a suitable help mate for your future husband. If it is to much work on your part than you know he is the wrong man for you. I took his advice and found a great husband. We have been happily married for 52 years now and I still make no move to change him, but has changed to please me.

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My husband and I have made it a habit of having breakfast and supper together. Whenever I lead in blessing the food, I always that our Father for giving me such a kind, considerate and loving husband. We have the most wonderful relationship you could imagine. We cannot help but want to be good to one and other, and we enjoy doing so. In the sixteen years that we have been married, my husband has never lost his job, and he has invested wisely so that we have no debts and no restrictions on our giving.

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Danna, you had a very wise father who gave you such sagely advice. I would have loved to have had that advice given to me when I was young. God bless you with at least another 25 years of great marriage.

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Sharleen V. what do you define as "made myself totally exciting" and how did you make yourself indispencilbe?

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Maryann, what is proper motivation, can you define it for me?

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Teena, I do believe that you soften a mans heart whenever he hears you pray good things into his life, to speak in thankfulness for him and to bless his future. We pray that your life has at least 5 times more years of joy in your relationship. You are a great example of a believing wife.

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I have been reading things on your site since last spring and this is my first attempt at contacting you. I have found that after 44 years of happy marriage, I have something that I can truly comment on. I get up each morning and thank my Father for the new day and I ask him for the strength to walk in his light, to be a better believer and to be a more loving wife. And let me tell you it realy has worked

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I love the good information on this blog and I will certainly be putting into practice in my marriage. God bless you and this site.

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I found that my husband needs little reminders that we are in a partnership not a dictatorship. Good times at night depend on goodtimes in the day. If he goes out of the way to abuse or upset me then he can not get what he wants at night for i will never be in the mood.

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My husband became very upset with his dad about two years ago and he has turned into a brute, a lier, and a petty thief ever since. Anyone with some good ideas of how to help him out of this confusion?

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Charlene B. I became totally indispensible because I learned everything that he likes and how he likes it. Being able to supply his needs, wants and desires in new exciting ways has made him totally addicted to me. He wants to hear everything I say and find every possible way of pleasing me.

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I would never be a brutish person to my wife as long I was sure that she loved me, respected me and looked forward to being with me. I would go out of my way to protect her, love her and encourage her/

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The women that I have met would not have anything to do with a man that did not show them some form of abuse so that they can know that they have his attention and love. Agressiveness really stimulate both men and women.

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Ronny H. your are under the spell of deception and a spell of perversion. Get these spells broken off quickly before the full effects of them come home to roast on your life.

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I have been telling people how much I appreciate him changing to treat me with respect and love. He has been hearing so many compliments that he is willingly changing.

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I don’t know how to start and say what I need to pour out of my hart... I discovered that my husband was watching porn on our PC when I was at work. I cannot say if it was just one time episode. I feel hurt and betrayed. I am not sure if he still loves me or our marriage is ending... Today I applied a parental control on our internet so he won’t be able go to these websites anymore. I know it is not a solution for this problem. Any advice would be much appreciated.

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Wife, Did God make you responcible for the saving of your husbands soul? You are looking to control your husband and his activities. That is insecurity on your part and on his. A married man does not seek out porn unless he is feeling denied, restricted or unloved. What are you doing to make sure that you are uplifting your mate? Andwhy are you offended and feeling betrayed if it is you who have made him feel insecure or disrespected to where he has to justify his manhood in porn? We pray that you connect with Jesus and get rid of the unforgiveness so that a real wife can emerge.

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I believe if you keep him working so hard that he is very tired when he get home, he has no energy to be a brute. Did God not say that a man was to live by the sweat of his brow?

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Jeannette, A husband responds to love and respect. What you are avocating brings a curse that the wife loves only money and has only get one her mind. It is this type of attitude that brings in marriage disfunction and a cursing hatred of women. it teaches the man to be an abusing brute. We pray that you are touched by repentance, forgiveness and love.

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Wife, forgive your husband and bind up the demons of inkabus, iccubus & siccabus, that are attacking him in chains of confusion, reject, break off, and cancel their assignments and then send them to the pit in Jesus' name. Speak into his life purity, peace and the love of Jesus. Also acknowledge his presence when you are together by affectionate words and touches so he knows you still find him attractive. Blessings of peace to you and to your marriage.

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Wife. I am not happy with the advice given you. Your husband is uncertain of his manhood because you are trying to contol him and this makes him feel unrespected, insecure and in doubt about his future. Aside from the demons that he has attracked, you need to understand that your husband gets more insecure with every move that you make to get control, and his insecurity is harvested in you 10 to 30 times because you will feel that much more insecure. Porn addiction is always a sign of no fixed identity, weak sense of manhood and a very weak walk with Jesus.

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I have been very encouraged by some the the advice that has been given on this blog. We thank God for your wisdom in running such an imformative blog.